Lets count my “casualties” shall we?
- 1 year away from my blog
- 6 months away from Instagram
- 4 months away from Twitter (for a Twitter addict that I was, this is major)
Being active online comes with my hat “Social Media Marketing” – you gotta know what’s going on right? And you gotta be social right? And exist on every platform… right? Right or wrong, up until a few months back I wanted to be everywhere at the same time.
Work long hours, be active online, post and tweet often… until I just stopped, stopped putting myself out there.
We sometimes get carried away by the things we have to be doing (cause everyone else is) rather than the things that really define who we are, and it’s been the same for me regarding my on-line life.
Now that the overwhelming feeling is pretty much gone, I can recognise those little pressure points that eventually lead to a bigger sense of oppression. I’m sure that’s a feeling you get regardless if you work in this industry, you are a blogger or a simple social media user.
1. Exist online
Having a Facebook account today is some sort of necessity, if not plain reality. Everyone is on Facebook and so should you. Take this simple fact (?) and multiply it by 10 (to say the least), this is how I felt regarding the need of being present on various social platforms.
This false need of being active on everything new and shiny gets enlarged even more from all those “experts” who post on how to -for example- live stream even if you have nothing to say.
2. Show off
It’s simple really, I don’t have stuff to show on an everyday basis, great pics or important things to tweet. And hey, some times I just want to sit quietly and read a book.
So simply existing on-line won’t cut it, you need to regularly share awesome, deep, expert content – I assume this is why you’ll find so many quotes being shared by people online.
3. Too many notifications
At some point my phone was buzzing every couple of seconds. Notifications from work, from Twitter, my alarm clock going off, people calling me…. Turns out, that was tought to handle.
4. No energy
Being part of a startup at its early steps is exciting and you can be so very creative, but it also involves a hell lot of work. My days were (and still are) too filled for me to have time for myself, and when I did have some free time I felt obliged to cover my other online life duties, socialize, be fun and important while truth is I was just tired.
5. No time
I remember laying on the couch with my boyfriend after a looong day at work and still holding my phone cause “I gotta answer to these people, they are talking to me on Twitter”.
Nuff said, I basically had no time for myself or my loved ones. There was no limit. So I realised, there was no point either. And what’s strange is that the solution is simple and I’ve been repeating it all this time.
→ NO ←
You gotta say no and you gotta choose. Choose to speak, to write, to post and to listen. Choose to switch your phone off. Choose to live in the moment.
P.S. 1 Being a Twitter junkie I feared that after 4 months I’d come back to 0 followers and an empty world – what I realized was pretty different and that’s another post…
P.S. 2 There’s a really cool little game when you have no internet and try to google something on Chrome – When you get the no-internet-dino just press tab and off you gooooo! 😉