How do you feel today?

I recently met Mr. Kundera. I came across one of his well-known novels “The Unbearable Lightness of the Being” while i was cruising the web. I thought “why not”.

I read the book within a few days and loved it. I expected it to be a million pounds heavy (yeap, unbearable) and it turned out flowing easily and interestingly.

I know it is irritating to talk about a book without actually talking about it, but i am afraid you are going to have to read it on your own. (Plus this post’s purpose is not the book) All i can say is that it looked to me as though Kundera managed to live inside each book hero’s head and tell the story the way each one sees and feels it. The differences between the way each book heroes saw things felt very real and intriguing.

So i gave the book to the one person i always call to talk about everything! Who actually listens, is eager to discuss, and seems to be in touch with her feelings and the feelings of the people around her. I gave her the book. Pretty excited and very sure she was going to love it!

A few days later i gave her the “did you read it” call. More precisely i said “Did you read it? Did you like it???” Her answer was, hmmm, not strange, weirdly interesting…!

That Kundera guy, τι να σου πω βρε παιδί μου (no need to translate that, besides translation would make it lose its meaning), he thinks too much!!!

As i thought about it, i was sure. The person i spend hours on the phone, the friend who tells me not to forget about myself, who tells me to smile, the most optimistic yet down to earth person i know  JUST TOLD ME A BIG SECRET…  And of course i googled it! What is happiness? I have read a thousand lists about things i should do or think in order to have inner happiness. I have to definitely mention one, i know you’ll enjoy it. Looking for ways to pump my self-esteem through psychology i found THE advice! (Yeap, i am about to share it!)

==> The idea of this expert/doctor is to write in a piece of paper that YOU are a better person than Hitler and hang that piece of paper somewhere you can see it every day. Now, i might be unaware of the breakthrough of this psychological approach and i may be a bit of an ass right now but i was laughing for days after reading it! (So in a way it accomplished its cause) If i have to actually remind myself that i am a better person than Hitler in order to feel better then i need serious psychological counseling…

“Optimism lays in the thought that our anxieties will never come true”.

And then i thought of all the things my friend tells me when i am drowning in a situation and i am losing sleep over it. “What do you want”, “Are you happy”, “If it’s a rose it will blossom on its own”. She says i don’t need to have all the answers, not even for myself (freaky). That life will get me where i truly want to go as long as i don’t forget to listen to myself.

The bottom line is that it’s ok to have messy hair days, make mistakes, leave the house untidy, eat the whole bowl of ice-cream now and then, do nothing in the weekend but rest, snick in the neighbor’s yard and hug their golden retriever, dance alone in the living room, talk to your pillow or cry for no apparent reason.

Do what makes you happy – gives you joy and let the steam off. It doesn’t matter if people stare in a weird way. (Or call the police when they find you in their yard at night chasing their dog…)

TO SUM UP, this loooong post was an excuse for me to do my “how to be happy”  list! 😀

  1. Smile. If you can’t, try! (It looks stupid, but it works)
  2. Take things lighter, don’t overanalyze everything (stuff may actually be the way they look)
  3. Listen to yourself, he knows better
  4. Train your body (get up from that chair and go out!)
  5. Eat healthily (don’t push your stomach, it will push back)
  6. Put color in your life, in your home
  7. Don’t give up on thinks you like
  8. Love those who love you
  9. Let go those who don’t
  10. Get educated, learn, EXPLORE (When was the last time you did something for the first time?)
  11. Have fun, you are never too old to play
  12. Don’t be so hard on yourself, give you a chance
  13. Love your body
  14. Travel
  15. be creative
  16. Be yourself, everyone else is taken – Oscar Wilde

I would love to know your happiness secrets! You never know, they may make my day! 😉


25 thoughts on “How do you feel today?

  1. I remind myself that no matter what the problem, it could always be worse; i could be facing that problem from the vantage point of a wheelchair, and suddenly i embrace the obstacle and am delighted that i have a creative mind that helps me solve the riddles of life. I remind myself that I can see – what would I do if suddenly my world went dark? Then I remember to be grateful that I can see in color! By then I am all but floating.. yes, life could be much worse, but we have a choice to see how lucky we are to have this day and have all of our senses! Z

    • Well said Z. People tend to forget that there’s much worse than what they are going through and drown in a teaspoon of water. Hopefully we all have loving people in our lives to keep reminding us to smile! 🙂

  2. Ah yes… Milan K… I like this quote : “We can never know what to want, because, living only one life, we can neither compare it with our previous lives nor perfect it in our lives to come”?

    This list should be printed out and put at a place you see first when you get up in the morning.
    I am one of many still searching for happiness in life. This helps 🙂

    • Thanks Miz Roket! I trully believe happines exists in our home, in the things we do and the people we talk to everyday (hm, not all the peolpe…). In a way people like to make their lives difficult, we just couldn’t live without complaining! It takes peace of mind to find happiness in our everyday life (i am working on that…)
      Sure it would be easier if we lived twice or more, but where’s the fun in that? 😛

  3. Hahahahaha!!! Guess what!? Although I consider myself an optimist and a pretty happy person you actually managed to uplift my happiness by introducing a brand new level! Your post was like a beverage in my sunny (but lovely) day! 😉

    ΥΓ : Κι αν δεν κατάλαβες από τα φραγκοΑγγλικά μου… μου άρεσε! :-p

    • Happy to have made your day John! 🙂 You do look like a happy person, you are full of positive energy! 😀
      I am surprised you don’t have a blog, you would have lots to say! Ξεκίνα λοιπόν!

  4. A post that I can totally relate too. Yes, there are days that everything doesn’t make sense. Our mood in haywire, we get grumpy, impatient, and totally a bit crazy…oops, I think I’m referring about me! Nobody’s perfect. It’s what’s make us human. This is so true, “Do what makes you happy – gives you joy and let the steam off. It doesn’t matter if people stare in a weird way. ” In the end, it’s all about you and the people you care about. People who accepts you for who your are…weirdness and all! Thanks…

    • I seem to have lots of those days lately! 😛 Wiredly, i am enjoying it…! When you go past the first shock you feel when you have days when nothing goes well, it’s quite funny how people treat you. In particular, my co workers treat me like a dangerous looney. Love it.

  5. This is so funny and such good advice! (I especially love your Positive Thought for the Day – but point # 16, “Be yourself, everybody else is taken!” is definitely my motto 🙂 Thank you!

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