I recently met Mr. Kundera. I came across one of his well-known novels “The Unbearable Lightness of the Being” while i was cruising the web. I thought “why not”.
I read the book within a few days and loved it. I expected it to be a million pounds heavy (yeap, unbearable) and it turned out flowing easily and interestingly.
I know it is irritating to talk about a book without actually talking about it, but i am afraid you are going to have to read it on your own. (Plus this post’s purpose is not the book) All i can say is that it looked to me as though Kundera managed to live inside each book hero’s head and tell the story the way each one sees and feels it. The differences between the way each book heroes saw things felt very real and intriguing.
So i gave the book to the one person i always call to talk about everything! Who actually listens, is eager to discuss, and seems to be in touch with her feelings and the feelings of the people around her. I gave her the book. Pretty excited and very sure she was going to love it!
A few days later i gave her the “did you read it” call. More precisely i said “Did you read it? Did you like it???” Her answer was, hmmm, not strange, weirdly interesting…!
–That Kundera guy, τι να σου πω βρε παιδί μου (no need to translate that, besides translation would make it lose its meaning), he thinks too much!!!
As i thought about it, i was sure. The person i spend hours on the phone, the friend who tells me not to forget about myself, who tells me to smile, the most optimistic yet down to earth person i know JUST TOLD ME A BIG SECRET… And of course i googled it! What is happiness? I have read a thousand lists about things i should do or think in order to have inner happiness. I have to definitely mention one, i know you’ll enjoy it. Looking for ways to pump my self-esteem through psychology i found THE advice! (Yeap, i am about to share it!)
==> The idea of this expert/doctor is to write in a piece of paper that YOU are a better person than Hitler and hang that piece of paper somewhere you can see it every day. Now, i might be unaware of the breakthrough of this psychological approach and i may be a bit of an ass right now but i was laughing for days after reading it! (So in a way it accomplished its cause) If i have to actually remind myself that i am a better person than Hitler in order to feel better then i need serious psychological counseling…
And then i thought of all the things my friend tells me when i am drowning in a situation and i am losing sleep over it. “What do you want”, “Are you happy”, “If it’s a rose it will blossom on its own”. She says i don’t need to have all the answers, not even for myself (freaky). That life will get me where i truly want to go as long as i don’t forget to listen to myself.
The bottom line is that it’s ok to have messy hair days, make mistakes, leave the house untidy, eat the whole bowl of ice-cream now and then, do nothing in the weekend but rest, snick in the neighbor’s yard and hug their golden retriever, dance alone in the living room, talk to your pillow or cry for no apparent reason.
Do what makes you happy – gives you joy and let the steam off. It doesn’t matter if people stare in a weird way. (Or call the police when they find you in their yard at night chasing their dog…)
TO SUM UP, this loooong post was an excuse for me to do my “how to be happy” list! 😀
- Smile. If you can’t, try! (It looks stupid, but it works)
- Take things lighter, don’t overanalyze everything (stuff may actually be the way they look)
- Listen to yourself, he knows better
- Train your body (get up from that chair and go out!)
- Eat healthily (don’t push your stomach, it will push back)
- Put color in your life, in your home
- Don’t give up on thinks you like
- Love those who love you
- Let go those who don’t
- Get educated, learn, EXPLORE (When was the last time you did something for the first time?)
- Have fun, you are never too old to play
- Don’t be so hard on yourself, give you a chance
- Love your body
- be creative
- Be yourself, everyone else is taken – Oscar Wilde